More often than not the marriage counseling fails to yield the desired results due to the incompetence of the counselor. They are rarely trained to work with couples and are only proficient in dealing with one psychic case at a time while the marriage might have undergone trouble due to two psychic cases working side by side.

It is quite easy to listen to one individual but listening to two individuals at the same time is a different proposition altogether. That is why most of the times the one to one therapy suggested by the marriage counselor does not work well. The problems are different and healing structure has to be different too to which the alternative methods are quite adept.

Unlike the marriage counselor the adviser in the alternative process are never neutral. They are also not dealing with the clients in such manner where the marriage would be undermined to some petty issues and relationships are not attached due importance. The moral commitment gets slaughtered at the altar of the individual interests in case of the marriage counseling which often tends to break the relationship even more than what it originally was and beyond possible repair.

The basic differences in the two approaches are that the marriage counselor will make the couple believe that either or both of them are abused. This means the professional thinks that the relationship is over and this feeling transmits to the clients. The alternative method highlights your caring of each other and does tends to save the relationship rather than destroy it.